Meet Lois Wagner
I inspire people to make a difference in their lives and to achieve their personal best. With my vast amount of business and life experience – I make coaching, consulting, and training real as well as fun and memorable. I encourage life-long learning and development.
A curious adventurer, I am constantly seeking new challenges and experiences. True to myself, I am a free spirit, questioning, searching and discovering new ideas, places and cultures. Fearless and larger than life, I boldly and bravely share my stories, revealing my vulnerability.
I am a Conversational Intelligence® Coach, an Executive and Business Coach, a Leadership Development and HR Consultant and a Training Facilitator who is qualified in Marketing, Occupation-Directed Education, Training and Development Practice, and Executive Coaching. I am a South African Business woman with extensive Human Resource, Training, Business, Management, Project Management, Marketing, Sales, Retailing, Consulting and Corporate and Leadership Coaching experience.
Artwork of Lois Wagner by Lizz Huesmann
Artwork by Lizz Huesmann
My Story – how I got from Fear to Forgiveness to Freedom
Over 20 years ago – working late one night in my small printing business – I was brutally attacked, raped and left for dead. I survived. Not only did I become a statistic – every 40 seconds a woman in South Africa is raped. I also became the victim of betrayal by my business partner.
I no longer wanted to work in that place of blood splattered ugly memories. My business partner, instead of buying me out as agreed, liquidated the business and I lost everything. My lover wanted nothing to do with me after that – I lost him too.
My response to all of this was – to be strong – to change the law, the constitution – to change the world. People lauded me for being so brave and so strong in my public fight to save the world.
In so doing I denied the reality of my pain and my fear and suffered severe psychosomatic back problems and the inability to do the things I loved most – hiking and scuba diving. In saving the world I forgot to save myself and lived as a victim for all those years. And so finally after years of living in fear and in pain – I forgave…
The rapist. My business partner. My lover. My friends who kept complimenting me on my bravery and strength. And finally the hardest part – I forgave myself.
I am walking without skin – exposed and vulnerable. Learn more about my journey.
To help anyone who has suffered a transgression, from harsh words to trauma to violence, to learn how to forgive so that they can become unstuck and realise a full and greater life.
- We learn how to forgive ourselves for the choices we made
- We do this by holding talks, webinars, conferences, workshops and retreats and by coaching one-on-one, face to face and via the internet.
- We encourage survivors of crime or any wrongdoing to share their stories to promote healing
- We teach methods of moving away from fear and living a full, safe and free life
- We share our stories and reflect on how we support each other on their highway to healing
So let the journey begin…
In looking to create an image, I decided to use a butterfly which is my symbol. From “Hope for the flowers” an allegorical novel by Trina Paulus.
- A butterfly is what you are meant to become
- It flies with beautiful wings and joins the earth to heaven
- You must be willing to give up being a caterpillar and risk for a butterfly
- It takes a lot of butterflies to make a world full of flowers
The butterfly is a positive symbol standing for the powers and art of transformation and immortality, and for beauty arising out of apparent death. Flight represents freedom from physical restrictions.
A tree is the embodiment of strength, beauty wisdom and eternal life. It is a symbol of a fresh start on life, positive energy, and a bright future. A tree grows old but its seeds ensure its immortality. A tree is also a symbol of growth and protection. I was told that I am strong and bold and decided that boldness is a characteristic that all woman should embrace.
Artwork by Lizz Huesmann
To be BEAUTIFULLY BOLD is to create your own magical powers to transform your life, take your newfound wings – and fly to personal freedom.
Lizz (my sister Elizabeth Huesmann) designed a magnificent logo of a tree within a butterfly.
The tree (within the butterfly veins) is the embodiment of life. The butterfly is a positive symbol standing for the powers and art of transformation and immortality, and for beauty arising out of apparent death. Boldness has genius, magic and power in it.
I am that butterfly.
I am BEAUTIFULLY BOLD.
I will create my own magical powers to transform my life, take my newfound wings – and fly to personal freedom.
The vision of Walking Without Skin – become Beautifully Bold as you Fly Free from Fear and Fury!