Yes, I know it should be 20/20 hindsight, but I am using the metric system. So, to be accurate it should be 6,096/6,096. (Did you know that the number 20 refers to the number of feet from the eye chart?)
Reflecting on my aspirations and goals for 2020 I have been both successful and unsuccessful.
My Dream is to eradicate sexual and gender-based violence.
My Aspiration is to be the light and catalyst that ignites change.
My Goal is to speak on word stages, to share my story and insights, and to coach and support victims.
And to launch my book.
My Intention is to focus on developing my branding and platforms.
My Action is to gain visibility via social media and other vehicles.
(See the definitions and differentiation between the above terms in a table at the end).
20/20 or 6/6 measures visual acuity.
So how clear and sharp was my vision at the beginning of this year?
It is so important to have the vision, the big audacious dreams, and aspirations, and then to create meaningful SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Realistic, Timebound) as stepping stones to achieve the big dream.
Evaluating my Personal Vision and 2020 Achievements
With 6/6 hindsight I can now see what was not obvious then and I can evaluate all my choices and actions with clarity.
The vision board I created this time last year was of me speaking on a world stage.
Well – I achieved that.
I have spoken on 22 local and 35 international “stages” this year.
The goal was not SMART. It was not SPECIFIC – it should have stated – speaking in-person on world stages and should have specified where in the world. Nothing MEASURABLE here, nothing about the number of countries or talks or number of people reached. There was no TIMING and in hindsight, it was not ACTIONABLE due to Covid.
The vision board also included a published book.
I achieved that with my book Walking without Skin: A Journey of Healing – from Fear to Forgiveness to Freedom.
I also collaborated in two other books – Voices of the 21st Century: Powerful, Passionate Women Who Make a Difference and One Hundred Words of Motivation.
Plus, I had two articles in a magazine – Roar.
I created an EBook– Ignite your Mojo and an EGuide – Forgiveness Checklist
What I missed here with my SMART goals was nothing MEASURABLE, nothing about quantities sold or reviews received.
My marketing strategy, my actions, were about social media presence and visibility.
These goals met most of the SMART criteria. And these goals were partly met.
I created a five-day virtual summit – Rape and Resilience, Triumph over Trauma with 43 international speakers.
I ran 43 Thrive in Three – A Brief Conversation about Thriving in Life and in Business interviews with guests giving a tip in three minutes on how to thrive.
In total, I created well over 100 videos.
What was missing – subscribers and viewers on my YouTube channel, even though I did set these as measurable targets.
And I was lacking in engagement on my YouTube, Facebook, and Instagram channels.
It is so important that you analyse and manage your numbers.
- 1000 subscribers – Achieved 30%
- 4000 watch hours / 240000 watch minutes – Achieved 38%
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lois_wagner_/ Objective: 1000 followers – achieved 60%
Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/www.walkingwithoutskin Objective: 2000 likes – achieved 28%
Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Coachingconversationsforchange Objective: 4000 likes – achieved 53%
LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/lois-wagner-coach/ Objective: 5000 connections – Achieved 81%
I focused on my true calling and purpose – my aspiration.
That of giving back and helping you move from victim to survivor to thriver and beyond to freedom after facing a life or business challenge or adversity.
All my work has been focused on building your resilience and grit, developing a growth mindset, energising your mojo, and learning to forgive.
It is essential that you celebrate ALL your successes, all your milestones, all your achievements, big and small.
I was honoured with a place on the Brainz 500 Global list of 2020 ‘s Honorees.
This is a list of 500 Entrepreneurs, Influential Leaders and Business Owners recognised for their entrepreneurial success, achievements, or dedication to help others.
Famous people in this list included:
I was honoured as a Human Rights Influencer for the month of March by the Institute for Justice and Reconciliation
“We love celebrating the work that fellow South Africans are doing to promote human rights. See here what Lois Wagner says makes her a #HumanRightsInfluencer!”
I was awarded Xtraordinary Woman of the Month for April
In addition, I created my Be BRAVE programme. This was set with SMART goals, and these goals were not achieved.
My greatest disappointments of 2020 were:
- Not travelling and speaking on world stages in person
- Not achieving the numbers and viewership of my virtual presentations
- Not achieving the sales and reviews of my book
What could I have done differently to achieve these?
To answer this, I will need to do some market research to find out where my content, marketing, and positioning missed the mark.
My greatest highlights of 2020 were all those activities mentioned above.
And I celebrated every tiny step on the way.
Going back to 20/20 or 6/6 vision.
The first number is the distance from the chart and the second number is the distance that an average person with normal eyesight can read the chart.
This means that if you have better than average eyesight you may have 20/15 (6/4,6) vision which is sharper than average. In other words, at 20 feet (6 meters) you can see a smaller line than the person with normal eyesight.
My goal for 2021 is to have 20/10 – 20/18 vision (2010 to 2018 were great years for me).
And I need to set my new Dreams, Aspirations, Goals, Intentions, and Actions.
To turn all my achievements of 2020 into a viable business where I can support others to follow their journeys to reach their desired destinations.
Contact me to set your
Dreams, Aspirations, Goals, Intentions, and Actions for 2021
Differences and differentiation between Dreams, Aspirations, Goals, Intentions, and Actions
- A thought
- An idea or image
- Who you want to be
- Your vision
- What you need to do to get there
- Your mission
- A predicted state of affairs
- Your mission
- Living your values
- Your inner relationship with yourself and others
- The journey
- Present based
- Lived daily
- Acted on daily
- May not be realistic
- Ambition or hope
- A desired result or aim
- Ardent desire
- Object or outcome of the aspiration
- Objective / Target
- A decision to act
- The end towards which your intention will be directed
- A commitment to achieving your goal
- Course of action
- Plan to do it
- Feelings based
- Excites you
- Focus on how you want to be in the moment
- Mental thought and activity based
- Planning based
- The driving force
- Be present
- Be mindful
- Celebrate every small achievement or success
- Motivates and inspires you to act
- No specific timeline
- SMART objectives
- Time based
- Drawing a road map / blueprint
Contact me to set your
Dreams, Aspirations, Goals, Intentions, and Actions for 2021
My colleague always says to me before going on a holiday adventure “Don’t come back broken”.
I have a reputation for having accidents or falling over when I travel and my trip to Abisco in Sweden was no exception. Dog mushing along a frozen lake, the route smooth and straight, I lost my balance and fell off the sled. And captured it all on my GoPro…
During the briefing, we were told that whatever happens, we must never lose a grip on the sled. We were told that if we fall off the dogs will run. And keep on running, and we would have to walk back. I managed to maintain a hold on the sled and our guide ran back to secure the sled and the dogs. I was both embarrassed and terrified and did not wish to continue. We were in the middle of an enormous frozen lake and there was no other way out but to get back on the sled and mush the dogs.
So upwards and onwards I went.
And so grateful that I did. The rest of the journey was mesmerisingly beautiful – riding through a dense forest with snow-laden trees. It was exhilarating, as I built my confidence, driving at speed up and down hills and around corners.
Never give up and stay on the path!
Of course – I had to fall off – on the flat and straight bit and going so slowly.
Posted by Lois Wagner on Saturday, 15 February 2014
Nesting Yurts – purchased in Kyrgyzstan – Similar to the Nesting Russian Dolls
The Blue Babushka
By Lois Wagner
7 February 1997
Life is like a Victorian Mystery Box, A Russian Doll
In searching for meaning and looking for soul
You open the lid to find another inside
Hoping the next layer will reveal your magical guide
The wind picks us and blows you in a certain direction
The purpose of has no meaning, no answer, no question
You have no place to hide to run – you’re trapped
As you get thrown about and your energy gets sapped
You vanish into that vast expansive unconsciousness
Vitality depletes into an infinite void of nothingness
But the greater orchestra instructs and compels
The design and pattern and even the form foretells
The future world appears and disappears
In a myriad of impulses that enhance the fears
You hide in the shadows and feel the heaviness
Punished by the raging storms of eternal darkness
To rebuild your life is incredibly hard
And I doubt that one ever finds the missing shard
Those shattered pieces, the crack that finally mends
With the loving help of supportive family and friends
The healing process is incredibly slow
And the tears will always continue to flow
The bruising lessons, they never go away
It’s all an illusion, an invisible delay
A small ray of hope – a radiation of light
Your dreams touch the sky both day and night
Wrapped in a ribbon and a blaze of swirling colour
A mirage, a vision, a trick of heart no other
You reach for that pinpoint of hope in the darkness
Fumbling out of the rigged and barren stillness
Fantasy taking on the weighty pain of reality
As you surface from the charades of conviviality
Then the reflection vanishes into darkness once again
You sink back into that dim despair, anguish and pain
At the peak of hysteria, the terrible distress
A sad pitiful reality of continued intense duress
Then and Now
2018 – and I am experiencing the exact same emotions and fears that I had while recovering from my rape ordeal and as expressed in my rhyme above. Only now it is about finding myself, at almost 64 years old, with no savings, no income, no job, no home and no country.
I have spent the last ten years in Oman in the Middle-East where I have had the most wonderful time. Being based here has afforded me the opportunity of visiting, other than my home country of South Africa, around 35 countries. I have met a multitude of interesting people and experienced many varied and fascinating cultures.
And it all came to a sudden and unexpected end.
This has left me, not only depressed, but in a state of panic, disorientation, hopelessness, and dread.
Depression saps your energy and makes it difficult to get going. Even doing the simplest things become a challenge and “snapping out of it” as suggested by well-meaning friends takes an enormous amount of effort.
Depression is more than just being blue.
Yes – we all get the blues from time to time. We feel sad, moody and a bit run-down, and feel averse to doing anything or participating in any activity.
Yes – we can “snap out of it” when we are facing some small issue or disappointment.
But when it is so intense that you feel totally hopeless and helpless and unable to face life’s struggles, it could be clinical depression.
Symptoms of clinical depression include all or some of the following: the inability to focus or concentrate (check); lack of energy all the time (check); tired and sleeping too much during the day (oh, so tired); unable to make decisions (check, check check); lack of interest in participating in social events (check); thoughts of suicide (only in passing); feeling of irritability and restlessness (check); feelings of emptiness and loneliness (check); lack of interest in doing pleasurable things (check); anxiousness and felling out of control (check); feelings of paranoia (check); panic attacks (check); uncontrolled crying (check);constant fidgeting (check);
I’m off to the doctor…
I love writing and putting this to paper has taken an enormous amount of effort.
I just completed an on-line assessment and the results are high – advising me to seek immediate professional help.
So that is what I am going to do…